04 October 2010

Being Superficial.


I have been sitting here for over an hour and didn't know what to write about. So I checked other blogs and I checked Facebook - yes, I know, I am a little obsessed! So here it comes, my very smart post of the day - because I am trying to write a little more often than in the past! Hoping that one day I will get more readers!

"Never apologize for what you feel. It's like saying sorry for being real."

How do you like that? Well, it brings memories back from when I first came to this country and was still in my 'complaining' mood and 'everything-is-bad-in-America'!!! Isn't that called being superficial? Well, back in the day, we, my foreign friends and me, were of the opinion that ALL American are superficial. Of course now, ten years later, I don't think that anymore. For one, we as human beings are all different. Then I believe that in every nation, there are all kinds of people, so every nation has superficial people. Being German, I grew up being very tight = meaning we Germans can be a little introverted. We like to stay to ourselves and separate private and public life very much. I heard that from a friend about six years ago - I had alot of time to think about it, and now, I actually have to admit that it is true. I know that I have changed alot over the past ten years, and especially since my cancer experience. Once I opened up about my feelings and my hurts that resulted from that illness, I felt so much better. Now, I share my thoughts, I share my dreams, and I share my fears.

I still believe it is also true: to have one very good friend is better than a million shallow ones! But if we don't open up to others, how can we find out what is really behind the curtain???

Also, I am a very honest person. To me, laying is the greatest sin! (just a personal opinion!) So I usually tell what I think and feel. I have been told that this scares people away! And I have friends that actually like this virtue about me. I am sorry for those that are scared, but I think that might be (???) due to their own insecurity? I am not sure. But I will not change for anybody because first of all, I have to live with myself. Then with my family, then with my friends! And then with all the strangers that might become my friends one day.....

What do you think?

1 comments:

C. Beth said...

You have definitely opened up which I think is wonderful!

I think lying is wrong. I also think that we can be careful what we say. Sometimes when what we say will hurt someone's feelings and not have a good effect, it's best not to say anything. NOT saying the truth isn't necessarily lying; but saying something that is NOT true is lying...if that makes sense.